I have a question for you…
Can you be the resident expert at something you are technically a failure at?
I am dubbed the computer guy of the family because I work in IT, and have done web development type projects. So the other day I was talking to a family member about an e-businesses. Since I have a little experience in the area, of course I had a plethora of information to share. Now granted my ventures haven’t blowupchuated (© A. Ashley), but I have learned a lot along the way. I wouldn’t say I was a failure, but I have not discovered the next Amazon nor eBay either.
So back to this conversation. Midway into our chat, I felt like I was in one of those father zones…those places like when I teach my sons from the mistakes I made when I played football. In some respects, I wonder how much help I really was by the time I gave numerous warnings about what not to do. Then while that cog was turning in my mind and I fell into a 30 second pity me festival, I thought to myself – What gives me the right to give advice in an area where I am not successful? You know those quick ruts you fall in when you reflect on all your mistakes, and are hard on yourself and the (bad) decisions you’ve made.
From this question I posed to myself, I went into one of those King’s Island headache-type thought rollercoasters (personal joke with the mrs).
How can you give someone advice about finances if you are in debt? How can you teach me about Jujitsu if you have never studied marital arts? How can you give marital advice if you are divorced? How can you teach me about home ownership and you live in an apartment? How can you convince me to purchase mutual funds, stocks and bonds when you have never invested yourself? How can an unsaved person teach me about Christianity? How can you be my spiritual leader and your own household is falling apart? How can someone from an opposite race teach me about my own culture?
When you really sit back and think about it, how could they not teach you? I can see arguments from both angles, but I believe (in some way) there is something to be learned form everybody.
What do you think?